Soultiply is a self-development site for people with BIG IDEAS. Not just those boring ole' day to day thoughts - but a place where dreams are TAKEN SERIOUSLY. A place to enrich your life and expand your soul. That's Soultiply - plain and simple. It's a community to help you translate that BIG IDEA swimming around your imagination into a tangible, beautiful reality. Because once you start tapping into the limitless potential you have inside, you will want to multiply those good vibes in every aspect of your life!
If you are new to this journey – let me fill you in. This is a series on the Soultiply Blog that focuses purely on the motivation to help you achieve your body related goals, especially in regards to weight loss. This Quest will hold your hand, cheer with you, cry with you, and give you a big ole’ pat on the back when you accomplish your dreams. We may wrinkle our nose at vegetables or watch Netflix rather than workout, but the hardest part of pushing our physical limits is the motivation to continue towards results.
Today is the perfect day to write the next post for the Quest because it’s a very special milestone for me…I’ve lost over 11 pounds! I woke up and hopped on the scale and saw a number that I haven’t seen in over two years. I am extremely overjoyed, but not surprised; I know in my heart that this time has been different.
Why is this time different?
Because when I first started, I sat down with myself and got HONEST. I thought, “What has kept me from success in the past? What always seems to trip me up and get in the way?”
It was a little discouraging, to recount past failures and own up to my mistakes. But I knew that what I had done to develop healthy habits in the past didn’t work – so in order to see weight loss results, I would have to try something different.
Ultimately, after much thought, I came to some solid conclusions. For me, it boiled down to two things.
More often than not, we do absolutely everything we can in order to avoid it.
Then how does it always seem to rear its ugly little head in so many different aspects of our lives? Our body & health, our romantic relationships, our career, our family life – it appears just about everywhere, like an unwelcomed wedding crasher here to ruin our big day. Pain can kill dreams, squash goals, and ruin our will to live productive, happy lives.
So the question is, how can we minimize our pain?
This very question was the main focus of Soultiply’s most recent Monthly Mantra.
The purpose of the monthly mantra series is to supply our readers with a go-to positive thought to guide the entire month.
But seriously, what a thought! You are NOT your pain. It can be hard to comprehend, right? Because we love to remember pain. It just soaks into our memories. And when it’s currently present in our lives, it is all- consuming.
But the key thing is: it doesn’t have to be.
After a month long venture into the world of this miserable feeling, I learned the painful truth by looking at the bright side of pain.
Yesterday afternoon I sat down at my computer for some well-deserved Soultiply time.
I had woken up, made my smoothie, went to the gym to workout with my lovely boyfriend, (Friends at home still following the Mind, Body & Soultiply Quest? I hope you are ready for some healthy motivation!) showered and was ready to work.
But the moment I sat down to crank out some serious inspired writing, I felt myself coming up short. I knew what I wanted to talk about, but it felt like fatigue was barreling over me like a runaway train. My mind was spinning; I just couldn’t concentrate, let alone come up with any worthwhile or helpful ideas. So I took a nap instead, and ended up feeling crabby for the rest of the day, frustrated that I couldn’t use my scarce, uninterrupted spare time to create something wondrous and helpful for my Soultiply readers.
Sleep, rest, and relaxation just seem so secondary when it comes to the amazing work that I want to share with the world, all the goals that I want to accomplish, all the people that I want to help. Who needs all the other stuff when you have that to look forward to every day?!
But that’s where I was VERY wrong, my friends.
Because I woke up this morning and I still felt caught in a creative rut. None of the whining and guilt of last night helped remove ANY of that crap.
But this time, I embraced the feeling (instead of moping around and rejecting it) and I thought, “What can I do to get around this? What do I, Brittany Ritcher, NEED today?”
And the answer popped into my brain the very moment that I allowed it - I needed to enjoy some nature, go on a nice walk through the park, and take some well-deserved downtime.
And I did exactly that.
I rounded up the boyfriend and said, “Let’s take a walk through Prospect Park!” He had never been before and it had been 5 years since I had ventured to the area, so we packed up our things and had an impromptu, adventurous day.
We saw rolling hills, dogs splashing around in the lake, small children running through the grass and enjoying the sunshine. We both found a shady spot next to a creek to relax for an hour (seriously, it didn’t even feel like the city!) and it was exactly what the doctor ordered. I felt inspired and rejuvenated upon my return.
I think as many young professionals and burgeoning entrepreneurs might relate to, it can be hard to find a stopping point in regards to our careers.
When your success is up to you, there is ALWAYS more work to be done and never enough time to do it. Especially when you are young and devoid of family responsibility, your free time is entirely up to you and your dreams are just an arm’s length away.
I remember back when I was acting, it was always so difficult for me to find a good stopping point, because there was always another audition that I could submit for, or more preparation that I could do for my character.
In fact, even now, the more I work on a project and feel inspired, the more new ideas I seem to come up with… I may cross off one thing from my to-do list, but I end up adding 3 more at the same time!
Trust me, these are delicious problems to have and I hope you have them too. But the real trick is finding the balance to stay on pace and keep your momentum, but without stumbling into the rut of good ole’ burnout.
Over-achievers oftentimes seem like they have it all figured out, but inside they may feel like their accomplishments are never enough.
Anyone else can relate?
Maybe you were the kid in school that none of your teachers worried about because they knew you were smart and could handle it. (You remember the days? Getting good grades because YOU wanted to, not because anyone was twisting your arm about it.) Maybe you try to express your frustration or doubts to others, but they scoff at you because they think it’s silly that someone as successful as you would have any worries about your future.
That’s a lot to handle alone. I want to give you the gift that can oftentimes be hard to give to yourself. I want you to stop, take a breath, and soak in the feeling of accomplishment.
First, what does it truly mean to feel accomplished?
For me, it’s when I recognize that I have made progress on something worthwhile. It’s hard to feel accomplished when you do something that you don’t care about, or something that you think is a waste of time. No, feeling accomplished comes when you conquer (or at least make progress) on something that sits near and dear to your heart, or something that is important to you and your ability to keep doing your best.
So here are 5 of my most tried-and-true ways to tap into your sense of accomplishment in order to give yourself the power you need to keep moving forward.